It won’t happen overnight. The first few weeks might feel really rough as you adjust from a relatively self-centered life to one focused on your child. (The hormones don’t help, either.) But after a while, you’ll have no trouble saying no.

When I was pregnant and worrying about this same issue, my sister told me this: It’s not that you can’t do interesting, fun things as a mother. It’s that your idea of what’s interesting and fun will change.

A year in to this big adventure, I realize she was right.

Congratulations and hang in there! It sucks to be hugely pregnant in the summer!